34: Interns dinner event, teaching Korean

Monday blues. Back to work. We have a dinner with some of the other interns in the evening at a Chinese restaurant.

It was quite interesting although rather awkward at first, since most of us don’t really know each other. Ahyoung knows some of them though, because they’re either high school friends or people they see around in campus back in the states. This is because most of the interns are Koreans or Korean Americans. And there are very few international schools in Korea, so those who hold dual citizenship in U.S.A or Canada attend international schools in Korea, rather than local high schools.

The reason for having such a huge number of Korean Americans this is because Korean Americans are probably the few people in Korea out there who can speak both Korean and English fluently. And most of them know a third language as well, be it Spanish, French, German, Chinese or whatever. Most foreigners really fall through at the Korean language part, because no matter how good we are in English, we cannot compete with the Korean Americans when it comes to Korean language. They grew up speaking, hearing and using the language (most of them anyway).Even if they claim they’re not good at Korean, they’re still good enough to function better than most people.

It’s like how I go around claiming that my Mandarin Chinese is bad, and I AM convinced that I’m not very good with the language. But even so, I’m pretty sure I’m wayyyy better than most foreigners learning the Chinese language. For one thing, it is effortless for me to speak it, unlike most foreigners learning it. It’s the same for the Korean Americans when it comes to speaking in Korean. They’re always at an advantage, unless they grow up without having anyone speaking Korean to them.

To grow up with a language allows you to pick up important nuances that your brain stops absorbing after a certain age. This is an advantage that is difficult to acquire even with many years of learning and practice. One good example: the Korean professors here will ask me to vet their papers even though they themselves speak and write in Chinese, because they know that there are nuances in the language that they missed out because they didn’t pick up the language from young. So I completely understand the advantage that Korean Americans have here, in terms of getting an internship/job. The perks of being bilingual from a young age!

Anyway, the most interesting thing from the dinner was getting to meet my future professor in KU. He is the guest-of-honor today, and he came down to meet us even though he just came back from NYC in the morning. I mentioned KU summer program and the classes I’m taking, and to my surprise, he said he is the professor teaching one of the classes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m glad because he seems like a really nice person, knowledgeable and speaks totally good English.

But I’m also worried because I was planning to be a quiet student at the back of the class but now it seems like this plan isn’t going to work out. He totally said, “I’ll be seeing you again soon, Alice” before he left the venue.

Shucks.

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After dinner, went back home to rest. Rex came back afterwards from his day trip, and I went downstairs to teach him Korean language. He already has some background (can read hangeul) but he hasn’t taken any proper lessons in NUS, so I went all the way back to the basics.

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Spelling time. Most people have problems with actually memorizing the hangeul. If you need more than 0.5 seconds to figure out how to read a hangeul character, you do not know the hangeul. So for his case, we started all the way from the basics. I’ll say a word, and he has to write it. It was really good practice because I can tell that after a while, he started to get more confident. This not only helps him to memorize hangeul strokes; it also trains his listening ability. He has to hear the words from me and write them accordingly.

I tried my best to choose words that I think he would know/recognize since it’s no point forcing someone to memorize new vocabulary. You can’t do too many things at one time. Let the hangeul get deep into your blood first, and do this by forcing yourself to write words that you know until you can read and write out hangeul characters within less than 0.5 seconds (basically naturally like how you’ll write your A B Cs).

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HAHA. A lot of running man words because it’s one of the fewwwww Korea-related things that Rex actually knows/watches. I gotta admire how he’s picking up this language purely for interest’s sake, and not for some celebrity (unlike me haha).

We went through a few grammar as well but I’m not expecting those to sink in until the hangeul part is fully and succinctly etched in his memory. It’ll get better though!

OPL, I know you’re reading this. As my first ever student for Korean language, I have high expectations hahaha. 열심히 하세요

 

33: Need to chill on Sunday

After the tiring DMZ trip and all the walking, I totally need a break. I need a break from physical movement. So Sunday, I just crashed all the way until 3:30pm. This is despite the fact that I set my alarm at 10:30am to eat brunch with Rex but erm, well. That didn’t quite happen. And he seems to know that I’m not going to make it (based on my usual “standards” when it comes to waking up on time haha), so he didn’t text me to wake me up.

So…an awesome more-than-12-hours-of-sleep!

Had 보쌈 (Bo-ssam) for dinner; one of my fav.

 

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After dinner, we went to Cafe Bene so that I could sit down somewhere and blog about the DMZ. He is supposed to plan his own trips and study Korean language.

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Cafe Bene is one of my fav cafes in Korea because I love the 유자차 (Yuja-cha) so much. Back when I used to live in bongcheon-dong/nakseongdae area, there is a Cafe Bene just downstairs that opens 24 hours. Almost every few days, I’ll get a 유자차 from there. It’s just too good, even in winter! Now it’s summer so I enjoy it even more.

Anyway, here’s something Euge sent to us; one of those personality test thingy that the Koreans are forever into. It has been going around for a while now so we totally jump into it. Here’s what it says about me:

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Well. Um. It basically says that I’m apparently a hot-tempered, but conservative (lol) and civil/polite person. And that I prefer men who are bright, genuine and confident.

I guess it’s mostly true? Though I can’t remember when was the last time I’m ever angry. I haven’t been really pissed off for a long time. Which is good right! Good for my wrinkle prevention routine.

Try yours here :)

32 (Part two): Seoul’s convivial spaces – City Hall 시청

After the DMZ tour, we came back to Seoul and they drop us at Lotte Hotel near Myeongdong. So we went there to shop again before going for dinner! Tried 갈비찜 (Galbi Stew) for the first time at this restaurant.

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Good food yoyo! This is our favourite, known as 주먹밥 (Jumokbap)!

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Basically, it’s a bowl of rice and seaweed. You’re supposed to mix them up and make them into little rice balls with your hand. They’ll give you gloves to do so. I love this!! Super delicious. But you gotta mix it well. Here’s me doing the mixing~

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HAHA. It’s not exactly perfect round shapes. But good enough. And it tastes good (though not entirely my credit since the cook or whoever made it).

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This is the 갈비찜!! I didn’t know it is supposed to be spicy. The pictures of this galbijim that I saw online are all brown in color. But anyway, it’s not bad. I love galbi so anything with galbi goes well with me. But it is very spicy if you choose anything higher than 10% (see menu above).

We spent a long time at this restaurant, mainly because it was still bright outside and we don’t want to go out of the restaurant until it’s dark. Too tired to walk too much as well. So we spent like 2 hours or more chatting. One of the best things when it comes to traveling with someone who matches your personality; you guys never run out of things to talk about!

After it’s dark and all, we went out of the restaurant and did a bit more shopping. I bought a clutch bag that I like and two more headbands ^^

Then, we decided to take a walk, because the weather is so freaking good! At night, it’s cooling, breezy and the air is fresh. I love Seoul!

So we went to Namdaemun market first, via walking. I generally have a pretty bad sense of direction but I’ve walked from Namdaemun market to Myeongdong before last winter with Regina and Denise, so I figured that I won’t have a problem walking BACK. So yeah, reached MDM market successfully :D

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Like me, Rex loves local spaces of interaction, and I know he will like to walk around these sort of markets. But too bad it’s quite late, so most of the stores are closed. And we’re so full that we wouldn’t want any more food. And my favourite hoddeok stall is closed. I IS SADZZZ. I haven’t eaten a single hoddeok here and I must let Rex try this before he goes back.

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Yucky looking ginseng. I know it’s probably really expensive and all but still.

Then we decided to walk to City Hall. The reason is because we didn’t want to take a train home, and I remembered that we have a bus home at Gwanghwamun. So we decided to walk to Gwanghwamun to take the bus, which will require us to pass through City Hall. Super good decision… I love walking around in Seoul!

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Look at all those people sitting down on the grass, having a little date, or just drinking with their friends, chatting while sitting on the grass, etc. Right in the middle of Seoul’s City Hall.

What is the number one thing that I appreciate about Seoul? The one thing that I think Seoul beats Singapore hands down? Well… it is the fact that the Seoul government takes serious account of having public spaces in the city, despite the fact that the city is so crowded with people. Look at how people are actually USING the City Hall’s grass patch. Look at how lively it is at night along the Cheongyecheon. Take a walk down Gwanghwamun in the evening, where children play withe fountain and couples take a walk past King Sejong the Great’s statue and Admiral Yi Sun Shin. In fact, here’s a picture of the Gwanghwamun square, taken on the same day in the afternoon when our bus passes by it on our way back:

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Sorry it’s a little dark. No time to adjust the shutter speed as the bus is moving by really quickly.

I love the Gwanghwamun square a lot, as well as City Hall and the Cheongyecheon. They are examples of public convivial spaces that are actually successful.

Singapore unfortunately fails in the public spaces aspect. A lot of public spaces that we have are neglected or not seen as important, and whatever “public spaces” that we have are mere tourist traps. Just look at the Singapore flyer. We should never have something that locals won’t want to use in the first place. How long will it take for Singapore to realize that if they are serious about attracting tourists, they need to stop destroying local spaces or creating fake, sanitized versions of “local spaces”?

I believe in convivial spaces because I know that as a tourist myself, I am attracted to convivial spaces in other countries. I want to go to a place that locals will actually use. I want to see what the locals do here, not a sanitized version of Korea. I’m pretty sure a lot of tourists in Singapore wouldn’t want a sanitized version either, if they know better. And increasingly tourists are knowing a lot more than they used to. You can call this a search for authenticity and indeed, this is what it is. It is what all tourists look for.

If Seoul can do this, we definitely can.

Well but for now let’s not worry about this. Back to Seoul.

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We are supposed to take the bus, but we decided to stop by at City Hall to enjoy the atmosphere. And use the time to learn photography. Rex was teaching me how to use my Samsung Galaxy Camera. There are a lot of advance manual options that I should make use of. He showed me what’s ISO, shutter speed and all those basic stuff that I didn’t know/care about. And how to put the frame and all. I hope my skills will improve!

LOVE CITY HALL!! I know I mentioned that so many times but I have so many good memories here, especially the olympic football match between Korea and Japan last year! I watched that here at Seoul’s city hall nearly a year ago. Good memories :)

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Omg. Oh well. I’m sure not all Koreans hate Japan or the Japanese. Or rather, they like them and hate them in a certain way. Such as how they like Japan enough to use their products and consume cultural products like anime, Japanese language, manga and some good movies. And they’re happy to travel there. But they can never truly like the Japanese because of so much historical and political baggage.

 

32: Observing Tourism Sociology at work during the DMZ Tour

Went on a DMZ tour yesterday. On my seventh trip here in Korea. It’s about time.

To be honest, I have been having doubts about going on my previous trips, which explains why I didn’t make the trip. A lot of people have been telling me how it is not worth it, etc, and I’ll admit it; those comments kind of affected me. Plus a DMZ tour isn’t something I want to go alone – just in case it sucked and all, who can I talk to for the entire day? Thankfully Rex is here! He is the type of person who likes history and culture, even more than I do; the kind who will read up about things before going – something that I sometimes wouldn’t.

But I’m glad I went for this. So many things to look at – more than just the DMZ. This entry will not be on what the DMZ is about, and all the history because honestly, you know all these things already or you can read about them elsewhere in other blogs. You don’t need me to blog about them. Instead, I’m going to use the DMZ to talk about my observations from a tourism sociological point of view. Afterall, I’m here to do fieldwork as well, although this has nothing to do with my thesis.

Hopefully from this, it can help you understand the tourism makers in the industry a little more, and why we want to travel to certain places in the first place (for the second part, I won’t cover too much on it since this is going to be a major part of my thesis, but I will save this entry until next year in April).

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Reached our first stop, Dorasan Station – the station that once connected South Korea to the North (Kaesong). This connection was short-lived, because North Korea closed that border soon after so no train goes to the North now. But tourist can still come here and visit.

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Tourists at work.

Tourism Geography is on my mind even though I’m technically a tourist myself here. I can’t help taking photos of the tourists taking their photos. What is in a photography? It is a way, a technique, a form of work that tourist do while on travel – to record pieces of evidences of their travels. A photograph itself IS Geography. They contain geographical images that we have in mind, and captures the things that each of us see from our own point of view. A camera is a tourist’s weapon; we appropriate what we see into a set of images, seeing only what we want to see, or the things we’ve been taught to see. Tourism is a set of learned behaviors that we perform as we travel, sometimes (most of the time) without consciously knowing that we’re doing them.

To many tourists who come here, the first thing they want to take is the sign that says “평양방면 To Pyeongyang” (see picture below). This is what they’ve been taught to do so when they’re here – capturing sights. Finding the signs that matters to them, and snapping pictures of them as evidences of travel.

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This is what I would have done, and what I do frequently as well as a tourist. This is partly why I love tourism geography. It is self-discovery to me; and so far I’ve learnt so much from the discipline that helps me know a little more about myself and my interests in travel.

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There is also a souvenir store here, which most tourists rush towards after capturing the “To Pyeongyang” signboard. Does this make you feel slightly uncomfortable? It definitely made me feel a little strange. Here is a place where we come, supposedly to learn about the separation of a country that was once a united whole for thousands of years. But we have shops like this, selling “DMZ souvenirs” as though it is something to celebrate about. Perhaps this is why a lot of people didn’t recommend the DMZ tour – not really because it’s boring. Perhaps some of you felt that you didn’t exactly learn anything from it, or you’re suspicious of what you are suppposed to learn there. Is this really a site to learn about the Korean war, or a mere tourist trap to reap monetary profits from a dark tourism site?

But at the same time, I think I wasn’t very sure who I’m supposed to be. A tourist or a third person watching this and studying it from a sociological point of view. As a tourist myself, who came on a tour here, I performed all the tourist behavior that I was taught to do so, such as taking pictures with landmarks and statues here, even though I am very well aware by now, that these are activities that tourists do because of the need to capture evidences of having travelled to places. So that they, like what I’m doing now, can come back and tell their stories. This is me telling you my story, my having “been” there.

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At the Dora Observatory: dmz2

This place is where we can take a aerial glimpse at North Korea (Mainly Kaesong Industrial complex). Some rules apply here, such as having to take pictures from a yellow line. We cannot take pictures if we cross the yellow line, probably one of those rules here to prevent tourists from pissing any North Korean army scouts out there, staring back with their giant binoculars or whatever.

But if you pay 500won, you can use one of those binoculars there. We paid, and spent a few minutes trying to find a living soul from where we are. I couldn’t see a single living organism, though there surely must have been some animals in the woods. This area hasn’t been touched by humans for a long time – and supposedly house some of the rarest species in the world. But of course, we couldn’t see any through the thick canopy of forest trees. Nor any human in fact.

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A few more touristy photos. If you’re wondering why I’m wearing a longer than usual dress (longer than my usual style anyway), it is because at the DMZ, you are not allowed to wear anything above the knee. Yet another rule. But you gotta have rules in these places. Not just because there might be a threat to safety since this is after all a place with guns moving about. You need rules in these sites too, because believe it or not, they play a part in instilling sufficient fear and excitement in you for you to enjoy this DMZ experience.

At the Third Tunnel:

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The third tunnel is one of the four tunnels discovered after the Korean war armistice, with the latest forth tunnel discovered just a little more than 20 years ago. These are tunnels dug up North Korea, in several attempts to reach Seoul via underground. If they had been successful, the nearest tunnel could have North Korean soldiers reaching Seoul within an hour – we were informed by the tour guide, who let the seriousness of this possibility sink in before laughing again, and moving on to the next topic.

At the tunnel, we went down through a railway carriage to see how it’s like. Nothing much actually. It is small but big enough for two persons to move to and back, but generally lower than 165cm, so most of the men had to bend over as we were moving in. The tunnel was covered in coal powder, which we were told that the North Korean government put those coal powder in, in an attempt to hide the fact that they were digging this tunnel for “unfriendly” reasons. When the tunnel was discovered, the North Korean government made an excuse that they were digging for coal and “didn’t know” that they have accidentally dug beyond the DMZ towards the South.

We sat with the tour guide, and during the 7 minute ride up to the surface by the railway, Rex asked him about the Korean army. So the tour guide told us that most soldiers can only go home about once every few months during his time, and they were paid very poorly (a few cents an hour). After the two years of compulsory conscription, they have to return every year for three days to do their reservist training. Most of it involves watching a very long video, which I guess is to remind them about the impeding war that may happen any time without warning. He said that he was pretty lucky, because his family only has one son (him) and three daughters. In addition to that, his parents are already very old (beyond a certain age, though he didn’t share this information), so he only have to serve for 6 months.

At this moment, Korean men can delay their military service up to age 32. I supposed this will be relevant information for the fangirls out there who are hoping that their oppas won’t go into army so soon, so I’m sharing it here as well.

Lunch time!!!! And a lot of random free time that we have – so here are some photos totally not related to the DMZ.

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The weather is fantastic. It’s a sunny day, but not humid hot. The breeze is cool and refreshing and I don’t remember sweating at all the whole day even though I do have to carry the umbrella around. Rex is totally judging me so sometimes I didn’t use my umbrella. And I regretted this now because the next day, I think I got a little bit darker. After all my hard work to make my skin color the same as the skin color under my arm, which I finally achieved this month in Korea. But now it’s back to half a shade darker. Sigh.

At the Panmunjeon:

These bimbo department concerns aside, back to after lunch’s tour – to the Panmunjeon, one of the most well-known images in the world when it comes to North-South Korea relations. I used the word “images” because I want to show you guys how important geographical imagination is when it comes to tourist travel and learning about places.

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Why is the DMZ interesting to so many, yet nobody cares about the Somalian civil war enough to want to check them out? Places are only fascinating to tourists because of images they’ve been taught by the media to recognize. Everyone wants to visit the leaning tower of pisa when they go to Italy, take pictures of boats and water-filled streets of Venice, the Eiffel tower in Paris, and lately, all the drama filming locations in South Korea.

Because even a person who has never been to any of these places have certain geographical imagination of them. A fan of KPOP and Kdramas have some faint idea of what Korea is like, because they have been taught by the dramas and variety shows to recognize certain well-known images. And this encourages travel to Korea. This is why so many people want to go to Korea within a span of a decade or two since the rise of Hallyu. This is the power of cultural products – it communicates expectations to overseas viewers about what they should be looking out for in Korea.

This is the same for the DMZ. Newspapers and the media have shown images of the Panmunjeon whenever they mention North-South relations. It is the symbol of North-South interactions; the place where any form of discussion between North and South could actually happen, even though this is not true. There are several regional forums in which the North and South Korean government could possibly interact as well. But for many of us, the blue-colored house at the Panmunjeon is what we remember, and as tourists, we want to capture these images with our cameras.

Best if we can capture them with ourselves in it. Evidence of us being “there”.

This is also the most exciting place for most of us – where we can really “feel the atmosphere”. Is the atmosphere real? Half-halfs maybe. Some of it, we have been prepped up along the way to feel. Remember those rules? “Wear pants/skirts below knee”  ”Do not wear printed t-shirts” “Do not gesture at the North Korean soldier” “take photos only when you are told to do so”. They may be safety precautions, but these precautions are essential aspects of a successful DMZ tour. They build us the atmosphere of tension and fear, not too much to scare the tourists away, but enough for tourists to feel “close to danger” but “far enough to be safe”.

So if you ask me, this place is no different from a theme park; with all the sights, music, characters and fun rides, which are all built specifically to tell us how to feel emotion and WHEN to feel a particular emotion. Though of course, the DMZ tour is a lot less engineered than a theme park.

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This is the man we all want to take a picture of. The only North Korean that you can ever come close enough for your naked eye. He doesn’t do much, except standing there with his binoculars. Occasionally, he’ll use it to check us out. And he’ll move to another position as well. But most of the time, he just stood there, extremely still.

On the South Korean side, there are these soldiers standing in a rigid position, with clenched fists. They don’t move so much as a muscle. The sight of them is definitely intimidating enough to tell us that this is not a place to fool about. You half expect them to fly at each other in a rage. Some wondered if these soldiers secretly want to talk to each other, like normal human beings. But they don’t do anything. Just standing there, looking at each other.

We were informed that even though there is only one North Korean soldier over at the other side, there are many more eyes looking at us as we move into the Panmunjeon. Ironically, it is less scary inside the Panmunjeon; the only place in the world where tourists from South Korea can take a step into North Korea if you’re standing on the other side of the room. Inside, there are only South Korean soldiers.

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The guy behind the chair is a human. I thought it was a statue. I can’t even tell if he is breathing.

After the panmunjeon, we were brought to a souvenir store again, where we were told that we can buy North Korean won, North Korean wine, shirts, caps and badges of the Joint Security Area (JSA) and Panmunjeon-related stuff. I noticed that other tourists mainly bought the North Korean won and North Korean wine. The JSA souvenirs are probably less interesting to them; just another reminder of American soldiers.

But North Korean wine and money notes on the other hand are exotic enough to capture the interest of many tourists. You can only find here at the DMZ Souvenir shop by the way (and in North Korea of course. 2000~3000 Euros will get you here if you wish).

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5000 South Korean won for a 100 North Korean won note. While I was looking at it, a staff working at the souvenir shop came by to tell me that this dude in the note is Kim Il Sung, leader of North Korea. I looked at her strange; it wasn’t because I was offended that she thinks I wouldn’t know that. She obviously doesn’t know who I am or my interests in Korean studies. It is the fact that she seems to think that the tourists here wouldn’t know a simple thing such as who Kim Il Sung is. Despite the fact that he is practically an iconic figure of the DPRK.

That was when I was reminded of the reason why nobody wants to be a tourist, even though we all are. Tourists have long been getting all the bad names: tourists are children to be taken care of, to be told what to do, what not to do. Tourists are ignorant about local culture and they come here with whatever ignorant and one-sided cultural beliefs from their own countries. Tourists are unaware of the negative impacts of their presence, in terms of how they come in seek for a culture that they are slowly destroying just for the fact that they come in search for it. That tourists are simply bad, ignorant, childish, and must be “taken care of” and “taught what to see and do”.

Is this why many of you today are engaging in free & easy type of travel, backpacking, Overseas community  involvement service (OCIP) and volunteer trips? Like me for instance. I haven’t been making short term trips to Korea for a long time. Whenever I’m here, I stay for over a month at least. I claimed that I don’t do much traveling. I hang out with local people frequently and do “local things” all the time. But does this really separate me from the rest of the tourists who come here? Does being a backpacker or a OCIP volunteer lessens the tourist guilt that many tourists feel while being on travel, especially to a poor country, because they know deep down that their presence itself is destroying the local culture here? Is being a volunteer necessarily less harmful than being a tourist?

The more important question to ask: are these questions even worth asking; whether it is a good thing or bad thing being a tourist? Does that really matter? Or should we focus on the meanings that are created during the process of local-tourist interactions? Because the fact is, whether tourists create harm or not, the fact is that tourists still visit the DMZ, buy the souvenirs and in the process change the whole place into a tourist trap. These are meanings created. Just because it is a tourist trap doesn’t mean it is necessarily less meaningful than it once was. We just have to figure out how these new meanings created may potentially change the landscape in future.

What will the DMZ mean to us in the future? 

I guess the answer to this question will change and continue to change as we go along.

10 things to know about workplace etiquette, customs and rules in Korea (my personal experience)

HELLLLOO. I haven’t been talking about my internship in Korea, even though this is currently the number 1 question you guys have now, based on the amount of emails I’m getting about it, such as how workplace in Korea is like and all.

A lot of questions about visa, renumeration, how to get an internship, applying for internships, resumes, where to find internships etc as well. I’ll get round to covering those questions that I know or am qualified enough to answer. As for the difficult questions, e.g. some of you are facing complications regarding visa application. In many cases, I truly can’t help much, except to tell you who you may contact and the type of visa you can mention to the immigration officer when asking question. So if you have visa questions, I will strongly suggest you approach the Korean embassy in your country. They are much more qualified to give you the information you need. :)

Back to topic! Today, as the title has already given away, will be on workplace etiquette, customs, rules and manners, based on my own personal experience. I am choosing this as my first FAQ style topic since as you guys know, I have the most interest in the cultural aspects of language; honorifics, formal/informal speech and all. :)

Hopefully this will help those of you who have dreams to work in Korea in the near future!

1. 군 (君) and 양 (孃)

I noticed that the other colleagues (older ones) here like to use 군(-gun) for male interns and 양(-yang) for female interns when they’re talking to us. So for my case, they frequently call out, “앨리스 양~” and write emails to me in the same way as well. 군 and 양 is only used on very formal situations, which in this case is very appropriate as the workplace is a very serious space in Korea.

They rarely call us by 씨 (-ssi) though, because in Korean workplaces, 씨 is mainly used for colleagues who are around the same age as you, or of similar positions/status. 군 and 양 is often used on colleagues who are many years younger or of a lower position/status. As we are interns, the lowest of the lowest, everyone calls us by 군 or 양 except older colleagues who are “closer” to us. Those closer to us will generally call us by name only, and frequently alternate between formal and informal speech.

I know that in Princess Hours or Goong, the girl goes around calling both princes 신군(Shin-gun) and 율군 (Yul-gun) but that’s a totally different context haha. In the olden days, princes have the title 군, so they’re always xx군.  It is also said that she did that to be “cute” but honestly I’ve never come across anyone doing that here so far.

2. 저희 (jeo-hwi) instead of 우리 (wuri)

When referring to a group of people including ourselves, always use 저희(jeo-hwi) instead of 우리(wuri).
Example: 저희는 인턴입니다 (O)  우리는 인턴입니다 (X)

3. Colleagues in your department vs those from other departments

For colleagues with a higher rank in your department,
it is common to call them by their surname or full name, followed by their titles. E.g. 김 과장 님 (Section head Kim) or 박 팀장 님 (Team leader Park)

For colleagues from other departments,
include the department name in front, followed by their titles. E.g. the Human Resource department head might be a Mr Kim xx, but it is more common to call him ‘인사부 과장 님’. 인사부 refers to the HR department and 과장 (section head) is his position.

Anybody else lower than you in position from either your own department or another department,
simply use -씨 or -양 or -군. However if you refer to a full-time colleague as 양 or 군, he or she might look at you oddly. I am not too sure, but the heads/leaders have once referred to their staff using 양 or 군. These two titles seem to be reserved only for us interns, because we are many many years younger and are not even proper employees there and all. So to be safe, -씨 is the best/safest way to go.

4. When to use -님 and when not to

When addressing anyone with a title, always include -님 at the end. E.g. 과장 님, 부장 님, 팀장 님, etc.

However, when speaking to a colleague of a higher position about another colleague, this depends on their respective positions. If the colleague you are speaking TO is of a higher position than the colleague you’re talking ABOUT, you don’t use -님 for the colleague with the lower position, as the honorific -님 is reserved for the person with the higher position.  E.g. if you speak to the boss about the manager, you don’t include honorific titles for the manager.

So when talking to 부장 님 (General manager/chief) about the 과장 님 (Section head), you should say “부장 님, 과장이…..-insertcontexthere-”

5. Always use formal speech with -시 and specific formal/honorific vocabulary when speaking to colleagues and the higher ups 

I realized that this point should be together with point 2, but whatever. I am really just typing whatever content that is flowing from my mind. In any case, take note of point 2 저회 since we tend to use 우리 pretty often. So this is the number one honorific vocabulary that we should know. e.g.
하다 —> 하시다
있다 —> 계시다
오다 —> 오시다
말 —> 말씀

Exceptions do apply. Some colleagues are friends after a while and they don’t bother with this anymore. But for anyone that you don’t know very well, it’s best to use appropriate vocabulary and grammar (formal speech).

6. “수고하다”, “수고하셨습니다” , “수고하세요” (you’ve worked hard, good work, etc) 

These are expressions used by senior colleagues to a junior colleague. But a junior colleague should not say these expressions to their superior.

7. Mentioning a superior when writing a document

When mentioning a superior, such as the general manager for example, in any document, the -님 is not required.
사장 님 (x) —- 사장
교수 님 (x) —- 교수

 8. A colleague who has a lower rank than you do, but is older than you?

Okay, this obviously didn’t happen to me since I’m one of the youngest here and also the lowest. But someone asked me this before recently, and prior to this question, I’ve already been curious and I’ve been on a lookout.

If the other person is of lower rank but older than you, it seems safest to refer them as ㅇㅇ씨 or ㅇㅇ님. Apparently, it is okay to use 선배 (sunbae) as well. But seriously? Stick to 님. 님 is never wrong. HAHA except to kid interns like us, that is.

9. 오빠 (oppa), 언니 (unnie), 누님 (Nu-nim) and 형 (hyeong) 

Some people may prefer to use these instead when they become closer to the colleagues. However, not all of them can be used! Wanna guess which one can’t be used in the office, EVER? Yes. It’s 오빠 (oppa). Forbidden word unless when referring to real brothers. HAHA.

Basically, younger guys can call older guys 형 or 형님 (형님 is more common).
Younger guys can also call older female colleagues 누나 or 누님 (usually 누님. Rarely 누나. Actually 누님 is probably also quite rare. But it is still acceptable most of the time.)

Younger females can call older females 언니 (very common!)

BUT younger females should not ever call an older male colleague 오빠(oppa)! Taboo bells will ring. Everyone will stare. Embarrassing. Don’t do it.

The reason is because 오빠 seems to carry the meaning of a girl showing interest to a male colleague. In a serious, no-joke environment like the office, calling someone 오빠 totally carries that sort of meaning.

Instead, younger females can call an older male colleague 선배 (sunbae) if she doesn’t want to use 씨 (-ssi) or 님 (-nim). This can happen if the two of them happen to be pretty good friends, since using 씨 or 님 is really kind of weird after a while when you’re better friends with someone at work.

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There’s no number 10 since I can’t think of any anymore. But I’ll make up one anyway:

10. 눈치 (nun-chi)

Learning these workplace etiquette, customs and rules are exhausting enough for foreigners. The hardest part is always knowing when to use which, especially when the lines drawn aren’t very clear. E.g. what happens when you gradually become closer with your colleagues. How do you address them now? (Point 9)

So in Korean language and especially with regard to learning about honorifics and designation/titles, I think 눈치 is probably the most important skill to master, before the whole language thing can fall into place. 눈치 means having “sense”. Sense to actually know the appropriate things to say, appropriate things to do, and what not to do, what not to say depending on the situation at hand. A lot of things are not explicitly explained or said. You have to “sense” it and perform your role appropriately. This is 눈치 있다. Becoming a 눈치 있는 사람 (a person with sense) is a very important EQ skill to have in Korea (Heck, it is important everywhere else).

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Hope you guys enjoyed this! I took a while since I’ve been so lazy… but I promised to talk about my experience, so here’s a detailed one about workplace etiquette and customs in Korea, based on my own personal experiences and observations. :)

Please let me know if there are alternatives or things that I’ve left out! I will really appreciate learning from you all as well.

30: 연대껍데기 (8,000KRW BBQ meat buffet!) at Sinchon

 

Got some of the photos from Juvy today! This was taken like.. 1~2 weeks ago? Back when the weather was still cold…. :(

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Anyway, that aside, today is great day at work! Ahyoung and I went for lunch at this awesome Japanese restaurant called 탄 (tan) in Anam-dong. The queue is really long but clearly worth it! Their Katsu-don is super omgggg goood. Just look at all that cheese! 2013-06-13 12.25.57

Only for 6,500KRW :)

After lunch, we went for patbingsu; forever our craving. ONLY 3,500KRW and 4,000KRW respectively!!!! And if you order the ordinary patbinsu, it cost 2,000KRW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is why I love university areas like Anam, Hyehwa, etc. CHEAP FOOD. And if you’ve live here for a while you know that food is a cost you want to save on.

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At night….

Met Rex again to go for dinner. Actually, I was going to fall asleep the moment I came back from work. But he came up and knock on my door until I dragged myself off the bed to open it. This TOTALLY reminds me of hall life (dormitory) haha! You know, going around knocking on doors to see if anyone wants supper. Good old days. So anyway, within 5 minutes, I got ready and went out.

We were going to get McDonalds and just eat in today but his friend told him about some 8,000KRW BBQ place at Sinchon. Me being the lazy person I am, I wasn’t going to go so far off. Plus I don’t often eat samgyeopsal or any BBQ meat. But he managed to convince me anyway, so we took my favourite bus 273 over.

Okay now I’m quite glad I went because it is really quite good :D

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It’s called 연대껍데기 Yondae Kkeopdegi. Only 8,000KRW per person!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Unlimited refills of meattttttttt and other side dishes!

Location: Sinchon Station Exit 3. You should see a Mcdonalds outside Exit 3. Ignore it. Continue to walk straight ahead until you see a second Mcdonalds. Beside it is an alleyway. Enter it. Walk straight until you see the shop above. It is not small so it should be pretty obvious!

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마음껏 드시고 8,000원 입니다!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah. Pretty awesome. Rex had an awesome day as well. He met yet another friend while he was at the palace today. Like seriously!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He only just met another friend on the train the other day. Which basically led us to conclude that SEOUL IS REALLY REALLY VERY VERY SMALL.

Lots of HTHT (heart-to-heart-talk) today as usual. Like everyday is a HTHT session! I’m so glad he came to Seoul because I think this totally improved our friendship. Even though we’ve always been good friends, but I don’t think we have a lot of chances in the past to actually talk this much. We might have a lot of common friends, but the 3 year age gap kind of made it hard to mix those common friends together. And now I feel like I’ve regained an old-new friend even though technically we’ve always been friends. Isn’t that strange? This really really brings back a lot of high school memories, those good old days. I now officially recruit him as the male friend that I can ask about matters such as whether my profile picture looks good enough to upload it.

And please motivate me so that I can spend my forth year studying very very very very hard!! I want to feel like how I used to feel like back in high school – that sort of focus, drive and determination! I’ll start first with the music he told me to listen to, that apparently will get me all hyped up to want to work very hard.

29: raw fishies, landscapes, and everything else on day.29

Rainy day’s OOTD. Ahyoung commented that my headbands always match my clothes colors. AHAAH. If you have like, more than 10 headbands, surely one or two of them is bound to match my clothing. I like wearing headbands when my black roots are starting to show. Convenient tool to hide them.

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A lot of people have been asking me about my double eyelids. Some “friends” even asked (through other friends -.-) if I did surgery in Korea. Omg? Anyway the answer is no, as you can see above. I have no double eyelids. 

Well, I have one double eyelid on my right eye. But it won’t show much if I don’t open my eyes big enough. But in some of my photos, I have double eyelids because, duh, ever heard of double-eyelid tape? :0 Which I am too lazy to keep up with nowadays haha.

ANYWAY!!! I’m back to….

Hyehwa again! Love this place vvvv much. Hyehwa is very well-known to any student here (foreign and local) but perhaps not as popular with the tourists, since they already have places like Myeongdong. On a quick glace, Hyehwa resembles Myeongdong is some ways, like the rows of shophouses and all. But most of them are restaurants; it’s not really a place for shopping.

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But I really like Hyehwa because, I don’t know; this place just smells of rich history that has evolved and transformed over the years. Hundreds of years ago, this place is where the Sungkyukwan is formed – a school for scholars to study in during the Joseon dynasty. It continue to be a place for students, especially the present-day Sungkyukwan university and Hanseong University, as well as Korea university which isn’t too far away. Before Seoul National University was forced to move its campus to Gwanak-gu, the old campus used to be located near Hyehwa as well. So for such a long time in history, Hyehwa (대학로 Daehangno) has been a place for students all along – whether you’re a Joseon scholar or an ordinary university student today.

It’s amazing if you think about it in this manner!

Anyway, was craving for raw fish, so we went to one of the 횟집 here!

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Saw this sign that made me laugh!

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Rex is totally shockeeddddddd that day because of how much I can eat. Apparently he hasn’t met any female who can eat as many raw fish as I could. -.-;;;

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Sannakji or live octopus , my fav! ^^

And good old 광어, middle size for 25,000KRW.

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Personally, I think this place is just alright because there aren’t many side dishes. What happened to all of them? But I didn’t demand for them because anyway I doubt two of us can finish.

28: Banpo bridge with my favourite 선배

찜닭 Jjimdak dinner today with 내가 가장 존경하는 선배 Rex at Myeongdong! I’m so glad he’s in Korea now, and I get to speak Singlish again!

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Meet Rex, one of my favorite people ever in the world! Even to this date, I still remember so many of the motivational stuff that he told me years ago when we’re in high school. I can only imagine how many people he infected with his own motivation, passion and drive. Not just to me, but he is a role model for so many in school back then. Even the teachers today are STILL talking about him. He is that legendary. HAHA. Best senior I ever had and probably the only senior that I still keep in contact with!

Anyway, he wanted to buy shoes today, so we came here to check out some of the shops, and had our dinner here.

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SPAO’s Iron Man. Omg I would never have taken a photo with this if I’m here alone or with most of my friends.

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We ordered both the 찜닭 and the 삼계탕 (Ginseng Chicken) lol. Singaporeans eat alot, you know. I can totally feel the waitress judging us.

It was raining today, so we went for 팥빙수 (Patpingsu) while waiting for the rain to stop. I cannot remember how many 빙수 I had so far….. the weather is no joke. But it’s better today since it was raining.

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After dinner, we rushed to catch the fountain show at Banpo Bridge. It was supposed to start at 9pm, and we only reached the Express bus terminal station at 8:55pm. So it’s a mad rush walking all the way from the station to the bridge. We had to fast-marched all the way. Thankfully he know the way, because I totally have no idea. Which is really terrible of me, since I supposedly have been to Korea so many times. Rex is the kind of person who will do research and all so HAHA I totally turned off my brains whenever someone is leading (this is a very bad habit of mine. I switched off my sense of direction as long as someone, ANYONE, is around).

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Reached Banpo Bridge slightly after 9pm! This photo above was taken using my samsung galaxy camera. It is so bright because Rex fiddled with the expert settings, which I have no idea about. I didn’t know my camera can take such clear pictures at night! Here’s a contrast:

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Anyway, the fountain show is supposed to start, but it was cancelled!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because of some rain. What the heck. Actually, Rex came here yesterday as well but he was late so he missed the show. Today, we missed it again. Like seriously. You know what this reminds me of?

Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang lol. I am sure that just like Liu Bei, we will be successful on our third visit. But this time, we’re totally dragging songyeon언니, Eunjung and Hanna with us. This is such an ideal place for a picnic!

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Even though the weather wasn’t good and the show was cancelled, can’t waste a good opportunity to camwhore~

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Sigh! But it was good chatting over the bench and enjoying the breeze. Even though it’s drizzling, I will rather this than the inferno yesterday.

Oh yea! I dragged Rex to Aritaum today to buy his first ever set of facial care products. Here’s his proud haul:

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He even bought the IOPE Bio Essence for Men, on my recommendation :D

And of course, he totally has no idea how to use any of it. This is like the first time he ever bothered to do anything on his face except washing it (But still have good skin all his life, that somehow wasn’t destroyed by UV rays despite years of being under the sun back in NCC, army and all. Some people have all the luck).

Anyway, I have to go through the steps with him a few times, but I do agree that it’s not easy for first-timers, so here’s what we did:

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HAHA! And those ugly heart-shaped post-its are his, but sadly, ugly hand-writing is mine. Under my recommendation, he got himself a toner, bio essence (similar to SKII 神奇水), essence, moisturizer, sunblock and exfoliating/peeling gel. He says he has a hole in his pocket now but really, I’m sure he will thank me when 5 years down the road, all his other friends are wrinkly and aged and he’s still young and handsome. I will wait for this day to come.

Good fun today even though my legs are so sore now.

Privacy is gold

My senior Rex once said that to me in passing, when he was talking about his own experiences that led him to such a conclusion.

I can’t tell you how much I completely agree with this now. Privacy is gold. Not because there is anything to hide. If anything, I used to be someone who likes to share. But I’ve gradually learn to realize that it is better to keep a lot of things to yourself than to discuss it with just anyone out there.

So many reasons for this that I can name, but here’s a few: 

1. I get MOST annoyed with random people/acquaintances/friends/family members trying to pry.

2. Annoying friends who like to share their “two cents worth” but are actually looking out for ways to discourage you further. And yes, there are all kinds of friends in the world, as I’ve said often enough. Friends who stick around to hear your sad stories aren’t necessarily good friends. Some friends totally LIVE for your misfortune and sadness. They are secretly relieved to hear that your life is not going so well, because they are insecure and unhappy with their own so much so that they don’t want to see someone else getting ahead of them. So beware about who you share your life stories with.

To me, there’s only ONE definition of a good friend; someone who not only stick by when you’re sad, but are also there to hear you boast and show-off about how awesome your life is and how happy you are, AND still feel happy for you. I’ve said this like 10000 times I guess. And to this date, it still stays. This is the only way to differentiate the good friends and the “let’s have fun” friends.

3. Rumors, stories, gossips and all other shit SPREADS LIKE WILDFIRE. If you’ve lived in a hall, or with a community of people, you will know exactly what I’m talking about. In all communities actually, whether if it’s a club, a department, a faculty, a dormitory, a class, etc. You’ll appreciate what’s privacy when you realize the kind of things everyone is talking about regarding other people. Be very very careful about what you tell someone else. In fact, there’s a saying that goes something like, “If you don’t want something to get out, DON’T EVEN DO IT.”

4. Privacy is good once you get used to keeping details about your life within your very small circles.

I am a blogger so it is very hard for me to get used to privacy. When you’re used to sharing, it feels weird to suddenly step back. It takes a while to get used to it. But once you’ve made that step, I can’t tell you how much easier and comfortable it is. For one thing, I learned to see the lines clearer – I’m better aware of what exactly I am willing to share, and what I know I don’t want to. I’m still blogging now and everything despite my appreciation for privacy, because I’m now better aware of what exactly I want to share, and what exactly I prefer to keep within the private realms.

And even though it has crossed my mind, I don’t think ceasing all social network activities is the way to go for me, because I definitely don’t want to be one of those paranoid people who closed themselves up completely and stop interacting with people. I still want to interact with strangers and learn from other people out there, you know?!

(Because according to some famous article from some famous business magazine, successful people share information, stories and stuff around with others HAHA.)

Anyway, it is all about knowing yourself better. Doing too much of anything is definitely not good, and not doing it at all is definitely not  good either – learning where the limits are will get you a lot further and a lot happier with your current and future choices.

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I had a great conversation with Dyane just now over chat. Here’s one example of a good friend btw! She has definitely passed that “can-this-friend-be-happy-for-you?” test 10000000 times. But anyway, we always have good conversations whenever we are miles apart! :)

27: Dinner at 이번지 깡통집, anam-dong

Back from very delicious dinner at some 고기 place in Anam. I know I supposedly live near here but I am still not very good with the restaurants here, especially those hidden in one of the many alleyways here. We took a long walk around Anam before he could finally decide on a good place to go to.

And apparently this was the place. Can’t remember the name of the shop though, or the landmarks near it. I’m the kind of horrible blogger who doesn’t pay attention to such details. Anyway, this is just a personal blog. But you guys can always comment or email if you ever want directions of any of the places I’ve went to :)   I found out about the name while I’m halfway done with this entry :) It’s 이번지 깡통집! Can’t remember how to walk over though. It’s along one of those alleyways definitely. This place is usually crowded on Fridays and weekends but since today’s Monday, we can somehow have a peaceful meal without having to shout.

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Fried (?) Kimchi! I like eating Kimchi this way. In the past, a longgggg time ago, I used to hate Kimchi. I think it tastes cold and weird. Then I solved my dislike for Kimchi by eating it in this manner. Every since that, I love every kind of kimchi. I often let friends who are afraid of kimchi eat it in this manner too and it’s true!! Later on, they’ll learn to like it too.

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We had four servings of samgyeopsal actually and we finished all of it. 헐. And he still ordered two more bowls of rice to make into 볶음밥. But when you’re at one of these meat BBQ places, it’s an irresistible thing to do: either make fried rice or order duenjangguk.

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냠냠~^^

The weather is terribly hot today!! 30~32 degrees or whatever. But I read that it “feels like” 40 degrees back in Singapore so I feel better now hahaha. And it’s annoying having to wear work clothes, since most of my work clothes are long sleeves in nature. It was worse for him, since he was wearing a suit; blazer and all. He had a job interview today haha. Besides the hot weather, I was super late as well because I had to stay back to clear some editing work for one of the papers before I could leave the office at 8pm. He had to finish off two cups of coffee at starbucks while studying for GRE test and waiting for me. But thankfully it became cooler at night (same as how Singapore would usually be at night).

I guess we just have to accept the fact that summer is back….. :(